Here’s “How to Recognize Your Future Ex-Husband”

New book helps women distinguish who to pursue and who to leave behind

There is one question that mothers have been asking their daughters since the beginning of time, “Why waste time with men who will never make you happy?” In many cases estrogen produces empathy, and once the faucets are turned on they are almost impossible to turn off. However, many problematic relationship choices are derived from attempting to rationalize behaviour that we know to be wrong or inappropriate.

Author Debra Weiner has written “How to Recognize Your Future Ex-Husband”, a simple, clear, and concise manual that addresses this all-too-human impulse and helps to distinguish who to pursue and who to leave behind in the quest for romantic partnership.

She says: “One day it occurred to me how helpful it would be to aggregate all of the questions and answers that emerged in my years of working with gifted therapists. I visualized creating something closer to a cookbook rather than a typical advice narrative.”

The book’s straightforward presentation is organized around key issues encountered in the first few weeks and months of dating men. Anger, boundaries, conflict avoidance, dependency, jealousy, money, and sex are among the many topics discussed via a mix of questions, answers, and personal stories. At its core, “How to Recognize Your Future Ex-Husband” addresses the pitfalls of the rationalization process and helps to identify which doubts must be listened to and which ones may be discarded in the pursuit of lasting love and marriage.

The book has received numerous accolades. Rachel Machacek, author of “The Science of Single: One Woman’s Grand Experiment in Modern Dating, Creating Chemistry, and Finding Love”, says: “It’s a veritable dating bible, and I wish I’d had her settle-or-else advice in my pocket 60 dates ago. Her style is frank, honest, and free of clichés—exactly how a book about dating and finding the perfect mate should be.”

Nationally syndicated columnist Margo Howard proclaims: “This is THE book for single women sizing up a man. Debra Weiner has written an encyclopaedia all about decoding male behaviour. She explains how to recognize trouble, interpret it, and run! It is wonderfully written, wise, and enlightening. You should not leave your single state without it!”

“How to Recognize Your Future Ex-Husband” is published by Fossanova and is available in both print and e-book formats at and